That Girl...
Romeo and Juliette. Buttercup and Westley. Spiderman and M.J. Beauty and the Beast. Mandy Moore and Shane West. Prince Charming and the Damsel in Distress.
Some of the most romantic love stories ever known… How did these women do it?
I am convinced that in American society, women don’t know what true romance is. We are so trained to think, act, and do things that we are told are “sexy” or “seductive” - completely disregarding anything that the Bible says or even common decency. In a world where there is absolutely no difference between the way girls dress in church and the way they dress at a party shows just how low the female race has sunk. What happened to modesty, propriety, manners, and being a God-fearing woman?
I think that as females, we often forget (I am guilty of this too) that males think completely differently than we do. When we see a cute outfit, say a button-down shirt-dress that comes to just above the knees and flip-flops, we think “Oh, cute! That’ll look great with (fill in the blank).” When a guy sees that on a girl, he thinks, “I wonder how much I can see if she bends over.” Disgusting? Shocking? Maybe… but if you don’t believe me, ask any [honest] guy.
When the only way a girl knows how to dance is how you dance in a club or at a high school homecoming dance full of overly-stimulated boys (and I do mean boys), how can we make the switch from society-pleasing females to God-pleasing women?
First it starts with asking a hard question: What do I need to change? (Let’s be honest… there’s always something) Maybe it is the length of your shorts. Maybe it’s the size of your shirt. Maybe layering a tank or cami under a shirt. Maybe it’s going up a size in your jeans so that when you bend over, there’s nothing to see. Maybe it’s just being more conscious of the way your body moves. Maybe it’s getting rid of some of those articles of “clothing” that really aren’t appropriate for anywhere. Maybe it’s re-evaluating your “church wardrobe” and your “life wardrobe.” All of these things might seem small, but they add up. And even a change in one area will affect everything else.
Second, and maybe more importantly that the first, ask God to convict you in the areas that you struggle - whether it is modesty or language or anything. No one knows you better than God - and He’ll let you know what He thinks if you ask Him. Believe me. Little-by-little you will start to transform into the beautiful creation that He intended you to be.
Just think about it… if you have to dress That Way to get attention from guys, do you really want that attention in the first place? Wouldn’t you rather be swept off your feet by some guy who likes you for who you are in Christ? Who likes you because you radiate Jesus in the way you dress, speak, laugh, love, etc.? A cat-call may be a momentary ego-boost, but it doesn’t last - and it’s not genuine. Be the person that God is calling you to be - You will be the most beautiful, captivating, and confident person you could ever be.
